There’s even a meditation fountain, which emits a trickling water flowing over pebbles groove, a soothing sound. I bought one for myself recently and sometimes I close my eyes and drift through the decades with that wonderful hum in my ears. I see myself dancing with Lucy back in Jersey as a child, or driving with my Pop in his Town Car, speaking of his dad, a conductor on the Metro-North rail line from Union Station in New Haven to New York’s Grand Central and back again every day.
Or I see myself in a crib as Mom plays her cello and her music fills the space. She’s wearing a bright cinnamon sweater, and her auburn hair is up, and it’s the fall of the year as she plays on our open porch, and neighbors comes by with cold drinks and assorted food, and I hear the ice cubes clinking together in all the cocktail glasses at the party. Mom loved to play cello more than she adored the world; once you absorbed that bewildering truth, you went on. Not easy, but you dealt with it, because when Mom got rolling and grooving, everyone forgot about their life and their own anguish, and so Lea and I forgot about ours, too.
I’ve learned through Dr. Owl’s guidance to be more selective with what I allow to scamper around inside my own brain. I say no to most carbs, porn, and reality TV. I enjoy Beethoven, Bach, Jason Isbell, Nanci Griffith and The Beatles, and a lot less horror. More Jackson Browne, Tracy Chapman, Rolling Stones, Al Green, The Eagles, Iris Dement, Paul Simon and Alabama Shakes, less noise. More poets like Baron Wormser, Rita Dove and Kim Bridgford.
My sister, Lea, plus my new girlfriend, Amy, who was my nurse briefly at the clinic and Dr. Owl would like me to celebrate the sublime events and embrace beauty more often. Dr. Owl said it doesn’t have to be huge Fourth of July-like Fireworks in New York, nor the thunderous roar of Niagara Falls, it can be something subdued, quiet. Like two neon-orange hummingbirds hovering near Amy’s first floor office window. Amy was at the grocery on that special day, so she didn’t spot the birds in action. When I told her all about the hummingbirds later, Amy laughed and said, “How do I even know what you say is true?”
“That’s easy, love,” I said. “Just ask Lilac – she never misses a thing.”